Moving On Doesn’t Mean We Forget

Kathy

Every year without fail, November 21st comes around, and with it, the memories of my sister Kathy’s’ murder. Kathy was savagely beaten, raped, strangled, and run over by a car. Her naked, lifeless body was discarded in the woods three miles from our home. I always thought an arrest would be made.

The loss is still heartbreaking and I miss her. I struggle to remember aspects of her personality. I can’t recall her voice, her laugh, her gestures, or her joking ways.

This summer I did a book signing at Gibson’s Bookstore in New Hampshire. A woman approached me after everyone else was gone. She told me, “I’m afraid I’ll forget him.” Her soul mate, her love had recently past away, and her greatest fear was she’d forget him. I empathized with her; the fear is real.

She had mementos from trips they’d taken and from the special life they had together. I suggested she start a journal. “Take the things you’ve collected and write about them. Use words to help remind you of the funny things he used to say, and about the trips you took together. Place the mementos with your stories. When you feel you’ve forgotten him, you’ll have your journal to help remind you of the love you shared.”

People told her to move on. “Moving on doesn’t mean we forget, or that we won’t grieve our loss years later. We learn to function after our loss, and we still reminisce. Sometimes reminiscing will make us laugh and other times cry, but either way, it’s okay.”

With tears in her eyes, she said, “I’m going to buy a journal.” We hugged, and I watched her walked away. That was an emotional conversation for me, but like so many other times, Kathy was in it. I know the fear of forgetting a laugh, a smile, or a joke. Its happened to me, and it hurts.

My goals today are different from years in the past. I don’t want Kathy to be forgotten. I hope what happened to her would cause others to make a difference in this world. One person can’t conquer the world, but one step forward can leave a positive mark.

The books, the speaking engagements, and the conversations I have with other families suffering from loss are the ways I show my love for her.

Love you, Kathy. Kisses and hugs forever…

Book Signings and Gratitude

gratitude-quotesI want to express my gratitude towards those that took time out of their busy schedules to attend the book signing in Concord and Franklin.  Your support lifts me up and encourages me to continue on the path before me.  Using Kathy’s story to educate law enforcement officers, victims’ advocates and university students about the effects of murder on a family honors her memory.  Education produces knowledge and knowledge fuels change.

Thank-you for  your support,
Karen

 

Laconia Daily Sun by Gail Ober

GLODDY MURDER EXAMINED – SISTER OF FRANKLIN VICTIM WRITES SECOND BOOK

By GAIL OBER, LACONIA DAILY SUN

“BRIDGEWATER — It’s been six years since her first book, “A Child is Missing, A True Story,” and 45 years since Karen Beaudin’s kid sister Kathy Lynn Gloddy was raped and murdered in Franklin.”

http://www.laconiadailysun.com/newsx/local-news/97490-second-book-written-by-sister-of-franklin-murder-victim

 

Book Signing/Speak: Gibson’s Bookstore & Franklin Public Library

Gibson’s Bookstore :

Event date:
Friday, August 26, 2016 – 5:30pm
Event address:
45 South Main St
Concord, NH 03301

Franklin Public Library :

Event date:
Saturday, August 27, 2016 – 1:00 pm
Event address:
Franklin Public Library
310 Central Street
Franklin, NH 03235

A Child is Missing: Searching for Justice, with Karen Beaudin

Friday, August 26th, 2016, 5:30 p.m.Karen Beaudin presents A Child is Missing: Searching for Justice, the follow-up to A Child Is Missing: A True Story, which recounts the tragic murder investigation of Karen’s younger

efhabicesister.A Child is Missing: Searching for Justice is the result of six years of research and interviews done by Karen Beaudin, sister of murdered victim Kathy Lynn Gloddy. Brutally beaten, raped, strangled, and run over by a vehicle, Kathy was left naked in the woods three miles from her home on November 21, 1971. Still searching for answers, Karen attempts to gather information about Kathy’s murder from law enforcement, forensics, and medical professionals, and classmates. Karen, driven by truth and justice, researched medical terms, people, places, and dates, looking for answers. A child is missing: searching for justice is a heartfelt and insightful look into the long reaching effects of a major loss to a family. What this book shows us is that although the police’s investigation may have come to an end the families does not. Without finding out the truth and bringing closure to the incident it can tear a family apart. This book sees the family take steps forward consulting forensic and investigative experts to give them an insight to new evidence and re-examine evidence that may have been overlooked through the original investigation. Consulting with Karen on this book has been a perceptive experience that has re-enforced for me that there is a need for police departments to establish and invest in cold case investigative teams. This book should leave the reader and anyone involved in the criminal justice process with one clear thought – “The investigation only ends when the truth is revealed.” Harry J Smy Curriculum Coordinator: Science Course Lead and Lecturer: Forensic Science City of Westminster College London

Grief Diaries: surviving loss by homicide

The Merriam Dictionary definition of grief is, “deep sadness caused especially by someone’s death.” If that’s the definition of grief, they’ve never met someone who’s loved one was murdered. While I finished A Child is Missing: searching for justice, Lynda Cheldelin Fell was creating, Surviving Loss by Homicide, a grief diary. I was asked by Donna R Gore, national advocate host of Shattered Lives Radio to participate and accepted the challenge. This endeavor was a volunteer mission of many willing to tell their story with the hope it might help others through their grief journey.

 

Grief Diaries Front cover               efhabice